I'm in a dark, dark place, everyone, and your support is needed desperately.
We said goodbye to Carter's pacifier on Friday.
Now, I know what you are all thinking.
a.) I thought you got rid of them a long time ago? When you wrote this post last June?
Yeah well....guess what?
I went out to Target and bought him 10 brand-new ones after I wrote that post. Enabler, I know.
b.) That's why I never gave my kids pacifiers! Just one more thing you have to wean them from!
I mean this in the nicest possible way...Screw you.
c.) It must be so hard for Carter right now, huh?
Thank you for asking. Surprisingly, he's been mostly fine about it. He asks for it occasionally, but I was kind of expecting that.
But what I wasn't expecting?
How traumatizing this would be for me.
I've been a crying, bumbling mess the past two days.
If anyone even mentions the word "paci" or "ba-ba" (what Carter used to call his pacifiers), my husband immediately hands me a tissue as I collapse onto the bed, wailing.
This paci break-up has rocked my parenting world.
My baby.....my adorable little Maggie Simpson pacifier baby... is GONE!
There will be no trips to Target to buy new ones this time.
I'm not even kidding you when I said I cried in McDaddy's arms for over an hour the other night.
He, Carter, and Matthew all looked at me like I was nuts.
I was all: "You guys don't even understand!!!!!!!!"
McDaddy said: "Um...call me crazy....but I think Carter can relate."
Me: "What?!? He has NO clue how this feels! He just had to say goodbye to a piece of plastic.....I had to say goodbye to my b-b-babyyyyy!!! Wahhhhh!!"
I couldn't say for certain because the tears were blinding my vision, but I'm pretty sure someone rolled their eyes at me.
So I stomped down the hall, slammed the door to my room, flopped on the bed with a package of Oreos, and called all the local radio stations to make "break up song" dedications so I could wallow in my misery properly, like the mature mother that I am.
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Oh, I am so dreading doing that all over again. They really do change from baby to big kid when the paci is gone.
I hope he does something to totally "wow" you so you look forward to the big boy!
how old is your boy and how'd you do it? I have a paci baby... well 2 year old. It does make them sooo much more baby still. Sorry momma :(
Most annoying Mom Comment Ever: "Oh, Little [Insert name] just wouldn't take a pacifier." Yeah, right.
I love the freedom that pacifiers give me to know my kids can calm down with them so quickly but I do worry about the addiction. I'm TRYING to limit just to nap time (and storytime before each nap). We do whip them out though if we are in public and one of the kids gets fussy. In a few more months they'll probably be full on addicts.
I got rid of my son's pacifier a few months ago too, after reading something that told me I should. Then I went out and bought some new ones. Yeah, I'll probably just let him keep them until he throws them away on his own or something.
Growing pains I tell ya!! I just wrote about 'em this week. Wish there were a pill we could take-but Oreos will do!!!
I cried when we took ours away from our oldest, since the baby doesn't take one..much to my dismay. (She is attached to her bottle instead, which I will have to take away long before I would have had to take a binkie).
I feel your pain. Maybe I need to go eat a few more oreos for you now.
I just went back and read your old post and laughed at my old comment.
We have now been paci free for three years, but there are days that I want to run out to Target and load up on those suckers again.
They really are *ahem* were the best!
Why is letting go of paci's and bottles so hard on us mommy's? Yet we would give our left arm for them to give up diapers.
You poor thing. I remember when Madeline quit nursing on her own and I was devastated. I felt like she'd never need me again. Like she was all grown up.
But, I assure you not having diapers, paci's is awesome! you can actually go back to carrying a cute purse and I know how you love fashion. Sounds like a good reason for a new Coach bag!
you're a stronger woman than I McMommy!!
My son is going to be three next month...and he still uses it at nap and bedtime *sigh* I KNOW.
Reagan never used a paci, so I can't relate on this one. But I love the fact that you wanted to hear some "break up" songs. We are so alike it's crazy!
I can so relate.
My last baby will be two this month. He only uses his "binky" at naptime and bedtime now. But I keep half-heartedly telling my husband we "need" to wean him from it the rest of the way "soon" ... but I just don't seem to be able to really get behind it. Because, yeah, he's my last baby. :)
You and ScaryMommy both wrote posts about your kids giving up pacifiers today. It must be something in the air.
Good luck!
HUGS sweetie, it's so easy to say it'll get better, but the pain of dealing with it right now is tough. K has her thumb ("thumbert") and I will never be able to rid her of that without some archaic torture device, so I kinda feel your pain!
Ah! I'm sorry I feel your pain! Your baby is growing up!! Hang in there!
I want to be reassuring, but as they leave each of their milestones, your heart breaks a little more. The soothing part of it, though, is realizing that you are doing your job the way you are intended. That their independence and the little person they become more than makes up for the lost of the heart bits you never get back.
I wrote about ditching the paci yesterday-- too funny!! And Jeff didn't get why I was part relieved and part heartbroken. Sigh.
My sis took her little one to Build a Bear and the put the pacis inside a puppy. Then when she wanted her pacis, she could just hug her "paci puppy." Then maybe he would look little because he was carrying around a toy. Problem solved. Ha! :)
I know how you feel. I'm planning on taking Cooper's away in July when he turns 2 and I am NOT looking forward to it. Because that means that my baby is not my baby anymore =(
Okay, so I think you definitely need an AWESOME mother's day treat tog et you over this - maybe a fabulous spa treatment, a new purse, jewelry?
I cried my eyes out when my daughter decided to stop breastfeeding. I new she was my last and I was SO not ready for it.
I feel your pain.
Awww, we aren't quite there yet. I'm trying to limit the paci, but we're not ready to give up that comfort that it gives him ;). It's going to be hard when it does go though I know because he's my last baby and my only boy. So I know who I'll be coming to when I need a shoulder to cry on. Not my husband and not my kids. Someone like you who can totally relate ;). Hang in there. You don't have him potty trained yet, right? So you've still got the diapers ;). He's still your baby.
Awe, these moments are so much harder for us than they are for them!
You know, I found the best way to get over them grow up...is to make another one. :) There is no paci guilt with a 3 month old.
Oh, I feel your pain, mama! I wrote not 1, not 2, but 3 posts about this very same topic last week. My 3 year old just told me 'I quit my be-o's' and I was like, NOOOOOO! Already? He was ready. I was not. (Be-o is what he calls his soother, because in Greek they're called Bibila, in case you were wondering what the heck a be-o was!)
Good luck. It is very sad, each baby stage that leaves...
I understand!! I went through that when Boo went cold turkey off hers. It wasn't anywhere near as bad for her, but I was a mess. My baby turned into a little girl. Not good for Mama!
I can sooo relate.
See Ava didn't start out using one. Then she was in the hospital and long story short, she HAD to use one. So she is 2 now, and we TRY to limit it to naps and bedtime but it doesn't always work that way.
Ava's "suck-suck" will more than likely follow her to the alter the way things are going. And I am a TOAL enabler. I will be sad to see them go, they come in such cute designs!!! :)
My oldest had her "paci" until she was 3. It was the most tramatic experience ever! We took it away a few weeks before she was going to be a flower girl in a wedding. We didn't think it would be cute to have her walking down the aisle with "paci".
She did well until right before the wedding screaming for "paci". She walked down the aisle a red faced mess swollen because mean mommy had no "paci".
So needless to say the other 2 had no paci's, it was just too tramatic for me.
Sounds like Mommy needs a nice bottle, er I mean glass, of wine to help her cope... ; )
Awww!!! It is so bittersweet...
My son just weaned from nursing a month ago... and .. although nice... I am sad. He is my last baby, my last nursling... and.. he is a big boy now. Has already forgotten... and it makes me sad.
I feel your pain!
It will be alright. I promise. Just put your head right here on my shoulder and let it all out. (I'm mentally giving you little pats on the back while you cry it out.)
I think this is something only other mothers can understand.
The "Binky Fairy" just visited our house a couple of weeks ago, and I think I took iot WAY harder than my Sassy!
sho wouldn't understand that!! I mean, really!
poor mama...
you won't feel that way when you say goodbye to carseats!!! *grin*
I totally need to wean my daughter from the paci too!! I just need to do it, but I'm putting it off.
There now, there now =) He's still your baby.
My mother-in-law still calls my husband her baby, even though he's long left his pacifier in the dust.
My son never took the pacifier, if there was nothing coming out of it, he didnt want it. My daughter however, had the pacifier until she turned 3, I kid you not, New Years day she woke up and said, I am a big girl, I am gonna throw this in the garbage. To which I retrieved and disinfected just in case.
Maybe it will make you feel better thinking about all the THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS you will be saving instead of spending them on braces. Start planning your trip to Paris now!
We're in the same boat. Jake's 3 and 3 months and it's time....well it's time for awhile now.
Hope it gets easier for you!
Okay Carter, we just want to know: how could you do this to your own Mommy?! Didn't you know she would be happysad? Sadhappy?
We know you are gifted sweetie, but you simply cannot grow up too fast, so just calm yourself down, okay? Pwomise?
Thank you,
tp
Our daughter stopped using it the day after her second birthday- but got it back shortly after when her nana decided she needed it back. Ever since then its been AWFUL. She wont let it out of her sight!
I've officially given up the fight, I think she looks cuter with accesories anyway! You can do it!
Oh goody. I can share my favorite pacifier tip - it's easy and painless. My middle son was a pacifier addict and this fixed him right up. I just tied the pacifier (with a very short, safe piece of yarn) around the neck of the biggest stuffed animal I could find. Then I just waited for him to get tired of lugging it around. He could still have it at naptime or bedtime, but he wasn't sucking on the darn thing all day long. Then after a while he gave it up altogether. Hope that helps.
I was a lucky one - my son spit his out at age 2 months. Smart little boy!
Well, I have a 2.5 y/o and we still have the pacifier. She sleeps with me (Daddy is in Iraq). She wakes in the middle of the night saying "Where's my pacifier?" It's my job to find it and place it in her mouth. Who's the enabler now???
I totally get this. I was the same way.
I DON'T have a paci baby...but wish I did! Lil Chick is 5 months old and STILL won't take one.
She does, however, suck on her middle fingers...guess we'll never have to say goodbye to those!
This cracks me up. I am so not ready for Lily to give up her paci.
How are you going to do when he's out of the crib? We need to send you some wine for that one.
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